My sister-in-law and her husband came over last night and we were all having a good time. Until I started discussing some books I checked out from the library on the topic of have the sex talk with your kids. I was explaining how one book focused on how parents never feel like it's the right time to openly discuss sex while our children are learning about it anyway from small cues they get from society and, yes, us! That discussion was all well and good and they were nodding their heads kindly (you know, the whole smile and nod thing...) while I continued on to the darker aspect of the conversation. I went on to discuss how another book discussed (at least in part) the automatic responses our bodies have to certain images, sounds, memories, etc. resulting in being in an aroused state. I used the example from the book about a child who felt his body betrayed him when he was being sexually abused by an adult. If that wasn't enough I also told them about a case I read about online involving a little girl that I will not repeat here. At this point my sister-in-law looked at my husband, started laughing, and said, "I know. I reached that point with the first story." I had apparently missed some silent communication going on between my husband and his sister. I took that as my cue to just shut up. Do I feel I did anything wrong? Not at all. But the others were notably uncomfortable. The in-laws left shortly after that. During their departure the husband turned to me and apologized for interrupting my (obviously one sided) conversation. That was kind of him but I knew at that moment that I would be talked about (at least in part) on the drive home.
I still don't feel like I did anything wrong... but I do feel sorry for making them uncomfortable.
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